college

Reaching Out

I'm on the UWM campus today - and I tend to be when I don't have much to do - and I'm noticing more and more the gap in age between me and some of these students. I'm 28 (very nearly 29), and a lot of these students are a decade younger than I am. I suppose we're still in the same "Generation X/Generation Y" group, but it's hard to really relate to some of these folks, and I'm racking my brain trying to figure out how to do that.

There's been a bit of a movement amongst some of us to really address the issue of the "Older Generation" and "Younger Generation" in the poly community, because it's there, and it's something worthy of discussion. Alan mentioned in his response to our news spot and op-ed in the Shepherd Express that we were doing something few other poly's had done: coming out completely by giving our full name and showing our face. I think it shows the difference between the generations in that we, as the Younger Generation, are more open to outing ourselves because we're more comfortable with the openness and free exchange of ideas that the Internet provides.

"Sex and Geeks" as my wife termed it. It's a generational mindset that sort of puts a gap between us in terms of world view and how to approach the notion of addressing the public. As a Younger Generation, we have people like Tristan Taormino and Jenny Block to look up to because they have been outspoken and completed outed of their own volition. The role models (some, not all) of the Older Generation had pseudonyms even after publishing fairly recognized and well-researched books. Why? The stigma was too great to risk public exposure. Now, it's really not that big a deal - at least for us. The traditions still flow deep in the Older Generation (as Miss Polyamory said in our interview), and it's hard to break free of them.

So being on campus makes me feel like there's a whole group of people uneducated about the ways of poly, and it's a great place to present the subject to them and give them the education when they're still learning how to be themselves. Exploration is what college is all about - sexual, intellectual, social - and it's a great place to tap into the free exchange of knowledge.

I'll be posting fliers when I get an opportunity to advertise for our group, which I hope will bring a fair amount of people. We're happy that we've had a steady membership of about 15 every session since we started (with a little variation here and there throughout the year). That's good, and we're hoping for more because it's a world entirely foreign and best not explored alone. Believe me, Ashe, Lyndzi, and I have been there.